Does the “Dr.” Bother You?

Does the “Dr.” Bother You?

It’s hard being a Black woman. It’s hard being full-figured. It’s even harder being a full-figured Black woman with a doctorate. I have three strikes against me; can a sista get a break? In 2008 I decided to pursue a doctorate. After eight years of...

Behind the Mask

I never thought at the age of 14 I would need to seek therapy. I never thought as an adult, I would have to return. I never thought I would be diagnosed with depression. My name is Janelle, and I am that strong friend. I’m in a good place, but have my moments....
When Achieving the Dream is Difficult

When Achieving the Dream is Difficult

A model trying to build their brand while working a full time job is extremely challenging. I wish I had the flexibility to just get up and travel to a photo shoot or casting whenever I wanted. Unfortunately, these school loans and other bills are not going to pay...
What About Us?

What About Us?

The number of plus size individuals on television, magazines, and media have increased over the years. However in many of those cases, they are advertising plus size attire, “love your body” campaigns, or being portrayed using negative stereotypes. I...
The J Spot

The J Spot

I have a confession…I HATE wearing lingerie. Had a horrible experience when I was trying to be sexy for a man I was with. That incident scarred me like no other. One night, I was in my apartment: I had just finished cooking dinner. My significant other (now my...
Big Girl With a Crown

Big Girl With a Crown

Since I was a little girl, I watched beauty pageants on television. I was named after the first Black woman to win Miss Universe, Janelle (Penny) Commissiong. She was also the first woman from Trinidad and Tobago (where my family was born and raised) to win the title....
Let Me See You Do The Yoga

Let Me See You Do The Yoga

Hello everyone! I have been on a brief hiatus; had to take care of self. Did you miss me? I was hesitant about sharing my experience trying yoga because I was embarrassed. Then I remembered why I started this blog and would be doing you all a disservice. So here...
To Shape or Not to Shape?

To Shape or Not to Shape?

There is a debate in the plus size community regarding the use of shapewear. If we love ourselves just the way we are (big belly and all), why are we covering it up with girdles, spanx, and the like? Shapewear, which is a part of fashion, is getting clouded in the...
I Am Not a Fetish!

I Am Not a Fetish!

I remember the days when being plus size was nothing to celebrate. Larger individuals were always disrespected and the butt of all jokes. However over the last few years there has been a shift. I noticed when Ashley Graham became the first plus size model to grace the...
No Filter

No Filter

The holidays are here, and you know what that means…family visits! Many will hear the following questions and/or comments from at least one family member. Now many of these you hear from an elder, but it seems that nowadays everyone wants to suffer from the...